Monday, August 27, 2012

How to Keep a Relationship Fresh

Keeping the spark in a long-term relationship is not easy. But, there are ways to nurture eachother and keep the home's fire burning.
Not everyone is looking for a long-term relationship, but most people who are in committed relationships are interested in keeping love alive for the duration. If everyone could afford regular romantic getaways, it might be easier. And if our time, money and energy weren't already dedicated to carrying out our busy lives, we might have more of it for planning romantic evenings, giving thoughtful gifts and maintaining a robust sex life.

Here are five positive ways to nurture these aspects of your relationship and keep the home fires burning.

1.Grooming and Hygiene

Remember at the beginning of your relationship when you always looked your best for each other, when not even a nose hair was out of place? As time passes, it's hard to maintain the same attention to appearance as we did in the beginning, what with the baby spit-up, weekly housecleaning and gardening chores, and lazy Sundays. If your relationship has lost a little of its fizzle, take a good hard look at yourself in the mirror. Paying just a little extra attention to grooming and hygiene can make the idea of spontaneous sex a lot more appealing.
Men, have you shaved recently or trimmed your facial hair (and removed food crumbs)? Trimmed your fingernails and toenails? Ladies, are you so comfortable in your favorite T-shirt-slash-nightgown that your lingerie has been forgotten in the back of the closet? Finally, everyone, have you bathed recently?
Don't forget about the importance of your surroundings. Groom your environment for romance with a little creative and cheap home redecorating. Dim the lighting or turn it off altogether and light some candles. Dress up the bed with extra pillows and soft, luxurious sheets to roll around in together. Try aromatherapy: Jasmine, ylang ylang and vanilla are scents that have been used for hundreds of years to arouse the senses and inspire sexy thoughts.

2. Maintain Outside Relationships

A couple's relationship can be both complicated and enhanced by outside relationships. Not all outside relationships will fit well into a couple's life together. Some of them, like those with mothers-in-law, can't exactly be avoided, but others can, and they should be kept separate from the couple's relationship. These friendships can enhance the couple's time together by giving each person time and space to nurture and develop interests that the partner doesn't necessarily share. A lunch date with a coworker is a much better outlet for discussing a work project than dinner at home. And sometimes it's really nice to be able to enjoy an inside joke without having to explain it to your significant other.
At the same time, it's healthy for couples to have friends they hang out with together. These friendships provide a way for a couple to be social together and explore common interests. They can also be a source of positive feedback for the relationship.
In the big picture, good relationships with family and friends, both singly and as a couple, can enhance the relationship and keep it lively and vital.

3. Learn to Argue Well

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